How to live life on your own terms: A Woman’s guide for awakening
passion into family, work, and life.
Being a woman in the modern world is far from what one would call easy. Being pulled in a million directions when the to do list is never ending and you already feel fried and that you can’t keep up can and will take its toll on you unless you take a stand for yourself and what you want your life to be.
It is estimated that up to 80% of adults will experience adrenal fatigue. Chances are that could be you, but it does not have to be if you take action now. Regardless of what industry you work in, your most precious commodity is your health and well-being. Without that, it does not matter how much money you make. Women especially, do not take a proactive approach and end up burnt out far sooner than later.
Which path will you choose? You can choose to be your best ally or your worst enemy. Self-betrayal is at the root of all dissatisfaction and lack of passion in your life. Be honest with yourself. Where are you not keeping your word to yourself? Are you last on the to do list because you are too busy taking care of everyone and everything else? No one else will come along and prioritize YOU. It is your job and yours alone to take a stand for yourself and what you are available for, how you are treated and how you will experience life. There is no time better than today in this moment to stand up and say, “Today, is the day I change my compass and prioritize me”
Here is how:
- You must be organized in your home and have systems and structures that work and assure that everyone is on board with your new vision of how you desire your life to be (if you live with others). As the single mother of 2 boys, this is a non-negotiable. We have a system with checklists of who gets what done so everyone is on the same page. This creates a peaceful and predictable environment that sets the tone for everyone to thrive.
- Delegate as much as you can as fast as you can. You will not be able to do it all, but you can have it all if you allow yourself to delegate and receive. Start small and work yourself up to delegating more with each passing year. For me as a single mother, this is a non-negotiable. As I grow my success and my bottom line, I continue to delegate more and more, which allows me to focus on money generating activates in my business and spend more time with loved ones doing what I enjoy.
- Leverage your time, the whole purpose of being successful for me is to spend more time doing what I love, whether that is coaching, speaking, traveling or spending conscious time with my loved ones, my goal is to delegate everything else. You must first have an awareness of how you spend your time in order to get strategic about it. Edit your calendar in real time for one week so it reflects everything you actually Then you can go back and see where you time drainers are or what you could begin delegating to free up more time for you.
- Identify what lights you up inside. Make a list of what you loved to do as a child and what you would love to do if you didn’t have to work today and had unlimited money coming in. This exercise will allow you to get in touch with the passion inside of you to re-awaken your own inner excitement. What causes are you passionate about? The fastest way to increase your vibration is to give generously, help another person etc. Fun activities don’t have to cost thousands of dollars. Even the simple activity of going for a nature walk or coloring in a Mandela can ignite your inner passion.
Since 2010 I have been coaching women around the globe and receiving coaching. As a result, my life continues to progress in a way that year after year my life gets better and better. I am happier, healthier and wealthier with each passing day. Life is meant to be lived this way. It does not mean that I have had it easy at all, it means I am better equipped to handle the massive life experiences that I have been through, such as a burglary, a near death experience, sitting on my best friend’s hospice bed and watching her die, turbulence and termination of a relationship with my family, bankruptcy, an unhappy marriage to an alcoholic that lead to a horrific yet welcomed ending in divorce. It was only in 2013 that I became financially independent for the first time in my life and with no family to help me in my situation and with my children it was just me and utterly terrifying. Thankfully I tripled my income that year and reached in to 6-figures! It has been a journey of many learning experiences and I am proud to say that with each day, I do better, I am better and I enjoy life to the fullest. May God bless each of you reading this beyond your wildest imagination and may you be humble and gracious enough to fully receive those gifts.